Real quick. I refuse to be anybody's fuckin exception to thier little rules in love and life. If you aren't normally attracted to me or someone like me, don't tell me. Keep that shit to myself. If I had a damn dollar for everytime I heard some shit like " I usually only like slim and small dudes...but I'm feelin you so wat up?" What kind of shit is that? Am I supposed to feel special or lucky that yo ass trying to holla. Fuck no. So what if I'm a thicker guy, never stopped what most people call good looking guys from trying to get at me. Keep that wack game shit.
I just hate that shit man. Its more offensive than flattering. Please, I need some honest feedback. Am I being too sensitive?
nah my dude...i don't think you're being too sensitive. I just think straight up people have a problem communicating. Saying something like that isn't a turn on and it shows a lack of "something." Still, shit like that can get under one's skin, so I def feel you. I'd suggest just to take it in stride and don't let it get to you too much. However, that is SOOOO much more easier said than done.
ReplyDeletenaw, in fact I always kinda took it as a sugar-coated insult. Like, wtf? You don't "usually mess w/ my type" wtf is that supposed to mean????
ReplyDelete-Cogito
Well, its hard to tell. But from what I see, you may be a bit sensitive,and he cocky ... Still depends on situation and guy who says this. We all have this types and ideals in our minds, but with time (i speak for myself at least) you realize that you may fall for a guy that doesnt fit your ideals...so this notion of "perfect type:" becomes more fluid... I think i had one of the best sex, like real connection with a guy that wasnt my type at all. He opened my horizon..But the thing is i told him this before we had anything - if i think back it was more to protect myself(cause he was fallin for me to fast,and was really sincere), what is kind of arogant, yeah. And with step this I created a wall between us, so we had nothing more than great sex few times...
ReplyDeleteInteresting topic you opened up:)
@Non2st You hit the mark. That "something" is really bothersome. It's hard to explain. I just know I don't like it, and it sure is a lot easier said than done.
ReplyDelete@cogiton I know right. Make you wanna bust the dude in the head
@ Miha I think I get offended more so by a person I don't know very well,if at all. It's a backhanded compliment at best. I've gotten with guys who didn't fit into my "type" but I never shared it with him because I felt it was irrelevant. If you're feeling someone there is no need to attempt to justify or understand ones feelings...just let it happen.
I agree Trey... if there is feeling, there is not need to justify:) anyway these are just superficial compliments; even if he said you are exactly my type or whatever, the intention would be the same - sex... so dont take it too serious, except if you wanna go deeper.
ReplyDeleteI've had it said to me before; usually by someone who is falling for me (either the sex or the total package) and they can't believe it. i think it was meant to be a compliment, but I didn't read too much into it...eh, how I feel about you determines how I react to it...*shrug*
ReplyDeleteIt really depends upon the person that's saying it. Nevertheless, I agree that it isn't necessary to be said at all. As a person matures, their "type" usually changes.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was growing up I was only attracted to and dated "redbone" women even though I was attracted to redbone men as well. Now, I'm 42 and I find men of all races, complexions, sizes, ages and heights attractive. For most people it changes with time.
Nah not sensitive @ all!
ReplyDelete