So the temptation starts! This is some bullshit. Red, from a few previous post, hit me up and said he wanted to go out and hang. I thought cool, but I knew I had to be on my shit. Like I said earlier, dude's sex is great...and it's hard to pass that shit up.
He went to this little spot on the other side of town (of course, for obvious reasons). Its one of those bar/grill places with some good ass food. We went, had a few drinks, ate some good food and had some good conversation. I swear this dude is a keeper. Even though the evening was simple, we had a great time. I guess its because he isn't pushy or no shit like like. I informed him of my celibacy vow before he even asked me to chill, because I didn't want it to be any confusion. I feel that honesty is the best policy in this situation. Nothing is worse than getting to "that point" and finding out someone isn't sexually active or you both were aiming to take the same position that night. I wanted him to know what was up as early as possible. He was really cool with it. He understood why, and he supports it. I'm not surprised though, while the sex is good, he isn't all about that...he's just fine without it. (And I'm sure he's getting it from hella other places, but thats none of my concern)
However, he did try some slick shit once we got in the car. Since I'm not out, I don't fuck with that PDA shit. No public displays of affection over here. Normally he's worse about this than I am. But when we got in the truck dude kissed me. I'm not talking about a peck or nothing like that, but he was damn near tonguing me down. Then he moved to my neck, which is one of my sweet spots. I had to stop him before it got too late. When I asked him what the fuck was wrong with him, he said "My bad, I was making sure you weren't bullshitin with me about what you said earlier." I told him I wasn't and we both laughed it off. I was sure that when we got back to his place to get straight in my car, cause it not...my whole celibacy promise to myself would have been gone out the window. But when I got home I popped in some porn so I'm good. LoL But ain't nothing like the real thing. What have I gotten myself into?!?!
I don't understand celibacy, to be honest. Who doesn't wanna cum? I think it says a lot about Red that you wanted to steer clear of him, other than having a meal. You coulda talked about it though, but that kind of shit is hard to bring up when you are trying to chill. I'm good with hot and cool. Not good with hot crazy.
ReplyDelete*sighs* Trey, you are a good one, dude! I know that if I'm not trying to fuck with a certain dude, I have to stay faaaaarrrr away from them, or it's going down! But I commend you for your self-restraint because to be honest, it could've got crackin' right there in the car--good for you!
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm rooting for you and Operation: Celibacy!
--Cogito
Remember: there's always Xtube.com!
@ Flowers - celibacy helps you clear your mind and focus. It's real easy to get caught up in sex & lose track of what you really want out of a relationship...or even life. Or at least that's how it's always worked for me. Now if I'm with someone, I'm usually intimate, though I like to wait there too...
ReplyDelete@Flowers and J- J pretty much summed it up for me. Sometimes you have to subtract sex from the equation to clear your mind. And yeah everybody wants to nut, but there are other ways.
ReplyDelete@Cogito- I'm already a loyal, frequent customer to x-tube. LoL And that damn self restraint is getting harder and harder, its to the point where I just need to stay away from muhfuckas.
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