Chill on That Flirting Shit

To what extent of flirting is going to damn far while in a relationship.  I think as humans we are natural flirts...whether is genuine interest or just to past time. Sometimes it's conscience and sometimes sub-conscience.  But at what level is it going to far and it's disrespectful to the one you are committed to.  Also, what kind of phone/text conversations should you be having (if any) with one of your flirtees?

Call me insecure, crazy, immature or what the fuck ever.  I don't think you should be having flirty conversations and relationships on the regular while you are in a relationship.  You can have friends and shit, but people who are trying to fuck you are not your friends.  I wish someone would help me drill this shit into D-Boy's head.  Like, damn dude...leave the hoes alone. 

He feels he has to be "Nice" to everybody and be their friend.  He thinks it's rude to just cut people off, even after they disrespect your relationship. Hell, he has gotten on me about cutting people off.  I just have a no non-sense attitude when it comes down to this type of shit.  If you are in a relationship, its some shit you have to ease up on. I know its not gonna stop completely, cause I still do it.  But when it comes to flirting with someone, or some people, becoming a main part of your day...its time to chill on that shit.

I'm sure I'm coming off insecure to some, but that's not the case.  I just find it disrespectful to carry on a flirty  conversation while with someone.  Maybe I need to grow up....or maybe I shouldn't have chosen someone that so many women still find attractive.  I should just be with a queen, so women won't be interested in them.  But then I won't be interested in them, so....this shit is just a  LOSE-LOSE!!! LoL

Entitled Gold-Digging Hoes

What is it with these bitches and this sense of entitlement to every-damn-thing in the world.  I see it more and more now...from co-workers to classmates to my own damn family.  Women really feel they deserve the world, just because they're alive...and don't have to give anything in return.

I am aware of the old stereotypes of women being materialistic and all that shit, but its getting out of hand.  They really feel a man is supposed to give, give, and give and that is his only purpose.  It's really starting to piss me off. Now, I don't date women...and know I know why! Lol

I had to get on my cousin the other day about this shit.  She is really like my sister, but I had to get her straight on something.  She has an excellent boyfriend, who is a good guy and will do anything for her.  However, she sometimes takes advantage of him...in my opinion.  He's still in school (last semester) and he works, so his income is limited. She, on the other hand, is a night cardiac ICU nurse.  She always expects something from him everytime he has a dollar in is pocket.  When he gets paid, she wants a purse, has to go out to eat...or something .  If he says he's running low on funds, and she wants to go out to eat....she just says she doesn't want to go anymore. Like her ass can't afford it.

Also, I see it everywhere I go.  At work, a group of us always go to lunch together (2 guys, and 2 ladies).  We went to the cafeteria just the other day, and the lady working at the register made the comment "Ya'll aren't taking care of the women's meal?"  I gave her the dumbest of looks.  Why, just because they are women, did she feel we were obligated to pay for her meal? Another example:  My homeboy just got any upgrade on his phone, his friends little sister asked him for his old iPhone 4.  He said sure, for a $150.  Its still practically new.  She got offended and said how does he look asking a woman to pay for a phone.

I'm a male, who dates other males...and I'm of the bottom persuasion. I don't expect a dude I'm with to take care of everything just because he's fucking me.  Hell, its the best economy right now and no one wants to give away all of their money.  Now granted, I literally have to fight D over this...I just don't agree with it.  I can take care of myself, I don't need shit from him.  It's nice to have a guy do nice things every once in a while...but not have a sense of entitlement to everything. 

These bitches have lost their mind.

Another Installment of Randomness....

Hey Hoes!

(Just a little random shit, sometimes you just gotta clear your mind.)

1. Where the fuck did all of the respect go for others' relationships?  It was a time that when you pursued someone and they told you they were married/involved you just bowed out.  Hell naw, that shit doesn't fly anymore.  Now the response is "What does that have to do with me?"  or "I didn't ask you that".  This shit is getting out of hand.  And it comes from all sides: male/female/gay/straight.  I haven't seen so many people say  "fuck your relationship" as much as I have lately.

2. I'm still getting back into the swing of things writing... that's why its been a while since last night.  Me and D have been getting settled in my new place (naw, he doesn't live here) and then my computer charger decided it wanted to say Fuck Me.  I'm getting my shit together though.

3. Does one ever FULLY grasps the concept of being in a relationship?  Meaning, is there a point where you "get it" and you know your partner and you guys completely understand each-other?  Or is it a never ending lesson?  I've been involved with D for a while and relationship for a few months and I swear I either learn something about him/me/us like everyday.  Its not bad honestly, but it can be a conglomerate of realizations at times. However, sometimes I don't know if that shit is normal...it just seems like it should be out of that stage, of you know, getting to know each other.  Or am I wrong?

4. I have attempted to go sober.  This shit oughta be interesting!  No real reason why.  My lil drinking wasn't causing any problems or shit like that.  I guess its just a test to see if I have enough self control/will-power  to accomplish it. Not giving myself a time frame to be alcohol free or anything (i.e 6 or 9 months). Its just gonna be something to work toward.  I'm always trying to challenge myself.  The only possible issue I think I had with alcohol is my reasoning for drinking.  I sat up and realized that sometimes I drink to deal with shit and to not have to face some shit....not for fun and enjoyment. 

Bitter Bitches

That title is the best I could come up with! LoL

Why is it that people feel the need to project negative feelings, and bad luck, on good situations that you have going on?  Or simply just have something negative to say about ANYTHING good in your life?

I don't really know how to put this shit into words, but I'm going to try anyway.

I was at work, where I work with mostly women (who are mostly bitter), and the issue of love and relationships came up.  We all get along, the men and the women, and have really good talks.  I love those bastards honestly. However, something really rubbed me the wrong way the other day. And No, they aren't the first to do it, however, it bothers my soul.

I was asked about my views on love and relationships at this stage in my life.  I simply replied that I like relationships and having someone constant...the going back and forth with random people annoys me.  You would have thought I said I support Soulja Boy for president. These hoes acted like it was the worst thing in the world....even after I expressed I was seeing somebody.  They basically told me that I didn't need to be with anybody and I needed to enjoy myself and the time I have to do so.  Some even went on to say I was crazy for being in a relationship, and they don't understand people that feel they need some body.  Spoken from a true BITTER BITCH. They have had so many bad experiences that they don't want anyone to be happy.  Miss me with that.

I simply replied to them and said- Don't discourage me from pursuing someone good only because you kept rushing into things and choosing bad partners.  Contrary to popular belief, there are some nice, decent people out there.  Two of them acted offended, while everyone else appeared to understand. 

It bothered me because I hate when people try to "down-play", insult, or criticize something/someone that you have expressed happiness with....when they have no reasoning.  Its no different than when me and D went out to eat and he ordered a Corona.  The waitress was like-OMG I don't see how ya'll drink that stuff, beer is nasty.  He looked at here like she had 3 heads.  Why would you basically call what I'm about to consume nasty.  Bitch, thats rude. 

I know this shit seems petty, but that shit is unnecessary and rude.  It really grinds my gears.

Yo Boy is Back

Ummmmm...Hi?

I'm not good at these things.  I just hope you bastards welcome me back!!! LoL  It's been a while I know.  It's just been a lot of bullshit going on.  Nothing too bad or horrible, thank God.  Just a lot of foolishness.  But I won't bore you with that shit.

The best news, I've been in a relationship for about 5 months now...with "D" of course.  I've written about him numerous times.  I know after all that shit I talked, my black ass is tied down! Truthfully speaking, the whole "relationship" with Sly was just to ween myself off of D. Clearly that shit didn't work.  One day D just kind of gave me a little ultimatum....and like a fool in love I fell for it. LoL But seriously, in the back of my mind I wanted to be with his ass.  Its been going good so far.  We have our moments, and shit hasn't been perfect but its perfect for us.

I've moved out of my dads house.   I couldn't wait to get the hell out of there.  Him and his new fiance' were about to drive me crazy.  I figured the best way to fix that would be to just leave since I was able.  It  has taken some getting used to, but I'm getting the hang of living alone.  I also got a promotion at work a few months back!

My biggest issue lately has just been my fucking drive man.  Even though I've been busy with D, working, school, and moving; my attitude in other areas has been all fucked up.  I just got tired of being everyone's go to guy. I just started thinking "when are these muh fuckas gonna be there for me?" So I decided to focus on Trey for a while.  And I must say, its the best thing I could have ever done.  School is going well, the job is ok, and I got a good ass man beside me through it all.  Even though shit is never perfect, I'll settle with being able to say that I'm Happy.  Not too many people can say that.

Everytime I tried to get on here and write, I just lost it.  To be honest...I've written about 4 post that I never published and lost.  They just weren't right.  But my spirits are back up.  So if anybody is still riding with me...I'm Back!

Howdy All!

*blows dust off blog*

Its been a good minute since I've been on here.  Don't really know why, but I have had a lot going on.  School is going well, relationship is thriving and I finally moved in my own place!

Not to mention I didn't have my computer for a while.  At 11 months old, my poor laptop needed a new motherboard.  Clearly my black ass didn't pay for that, I just bought a new one.  This makes the third one in 4 1/2 years.  So I decided to stop going the cheap route and got one well worth the money. Had to get pop's help, but I just told him it was a good investment.  That dude is all about investments. LoL

I'm gonna give a few updates in the next post.  It just seems that I went through a time where I wasn't inspired at all to write or share anything.  And I ONLY write/update the blog whenever I truly have something to say or vent about...I don't just do "filler posts" (if you don't count this one LoL). Hope all is well with everyone!!!